How to Use a Vibrator

There is a reason that vibrators tend to become an owner's best friend. They are A M A Z I N G. And if you don’t own one already, then you are seriously missing out. While we all know that vibrators vibrate (the clue is really in the title for that one), nowadays they also do more than just that. Buzzing, rumbling, tickling, thrusting, squirming, throbbing, spinning, rotating.

The options are almost endless! Hence picking one can be quite difficult. But once you figure out where you want it to go then the choice should be much easier. Once you have that figured out, here are a few tips for how to use your new vibrating best friend.

Getting to Know Your Vibrator

While most vibrators will come with instructions about how the toys controls work, they tend to leave out the part about how to actually use it on your body. Different vibes are used in different ways and figuring out what feels best for you will take a bit of practice.

The more you play and explore with your sex toy, the more you will understand how you like it and how to really make the most out of it. Although different toys are used differently, there are a few tips that can help guide you through the first time to make things a lot easier.

Tips and Ticks Before Getting Started

Well first off, you are going to want to charge your toy or insert some new batteries. Most rechargeable vibes actually come partially charged but they won’t last very long. I suggest you charge it up fully to get the most out of it. Once, it is charged, get comfy and make sure your room is completely set up and you are feeling relaxed. If that requires music or candles, then go ahead! Now lets, get ready to play!

How to Use a Vibrator - A Step-by-Step Guide for Beginners

Let's break it down, one step at a time. Be sure to watch the video at the end if you want to skip the text. 

1. Check out the settings prior to actually inserting it or using it on the body

Now that you are ready, it’s time to check out the full collection of speeds and settings. You are much better off doing this with the toy in your hand rather than diving in and using it in it’s intended area straight off the bat. This is because it might go up to a speed that is way too high for you without you realizing, and you can learn how to work the controls much easier when it is right in your view.

It can get a bit tricky when it is down between your legs! Plus, you can go through any patterns like this, figure out which ones you find interesting and remember how many clicks of a button it takes to get to that one so you can get to it fast when the product is in use without too much trouble.

2. Thoroughly clean the toy

Just like your mum always told you to wash your brand new sheets or underwear before using them for the first time, the same goes for your sex toys, especially if it is an internal toy. Most sex toy materials are shaped in a mold and there will often be residue of the materials used to stop them from sticking still on the toy when it comes out of its packet. But don’t worry! It’s super easy to get off. Just use some warm water and soap or a sex toy cleaner and it will wash right off.

Just make sure you find out in advance if the product is waterproof (meaning it is safe to be fully submerged in water), splash proof (meaning that it can have water on it but cannot be submerged), or neither of these which means that only that you will need to be very careful with cleaning and only clean the areas that specifically come into contact with the body.

3. Use a whole lot of lubricant

Regardless of how aroused, you are, I would highly recommend using a great water-based lubricant along with your toy to keep things nice and smooth. As different types of materials have different rules about which types of lubricants they can be used with, you are best off to stick to water based as this is safe to use with all types of toys, no matter what material it is made of. It’s great for all types of sex too and can be used in any orifice, which is a nice bonus.

Lubricant not only makes things nice and slippery, but it also works to protect your skin from any friction and can also prevent wear and tear on the toy for the same reason. And don’t worry, you will still feel the full sensation of the vibrator, as a water-based lube will still carry all that amazing sensation through to your nerve endings without inhibiting it. So, even if you are super aroused and think that you are naturally lubricated enough, you should use a little anyway as it will be much more enjoyable, I promise.

4. Start sloooooowly and begin on the lowest setting

No matter how excited you are, and I know you will be, it always starts to go slowly with any type of sex toy until you are completely comfortable with one another and know each other inside out! When you are first getting acquainted with your new vibrator, just go slow and ease into it, especially when it comes to insertion and removal of the toy. You don’t want to be rough with it as you could do some damage to yourself or the vibe.

Keep the vibrator turned off when you first insert it or touch it to the skin, and only turn it on when you are ready. When you are ready, flick it on and have a blast. But you probably want to stick with the lower settings first and work your way up when your body can handle it. With most vibrators, it is much easier to turn the toy up then it is to turn it down, so keep that in mind!

5. Try moving the toy around for a different sensation

While vibrating sex toys feel amazing, there is no need to rely solely on the vibrations to have a great time. Think about other ways that you can maneuver the toy to get yourself going. You could try thrusting or moving the toy in a circular motion while it is inside you if it is an internal toy, or move the toy left and right or around in small circles if you are using it externally. While it may not necessarily be the thing that gets you off straight away, you might find a whole new world of sensation and have a lot of fun doing it.

6. Get experimental

Even if you know exactly the right way to use your vibrator to get you off, I still recommend playing with all of the settings, all the body parts and all of the positions that the vibe allows when you are ready to. Experimenting is all part of the fun! You don’t need to use it like every time, and it probably won’t take you long to find your favorite way to use it, but you never know until you try right?!

7. Try it out with a partner if you want to

Using a sex toy with a partner is an awesome way to really spice things up. You can use it on yourself in front of them, use it during sex, or let them use it on you as part of foreplay.

How to Properly Clean and Care for Your Vibrator

Cleaning your vibrator is extremely important too. It will keep it body-safe and also ensure that the material is kept in tip-top condition so that your toy will last a long time. Different materials require different care but as a general rule, I recommend washing it with some warm water and an anti-bacterial toy cleaner. Here are two of my favorites.

1 . Lovehoney Fresh Toy Cleaner

This is easy to use a spray bottle of anti-bacterial toy cleaner that is safe to be used on all sex toy materials. Just make sure you rinse it thoroughly after cleaning so that there is no cleaner residue left on the toy.

2 . Lovehoney Fresh Biodegradable Sex Toy & Body Wipes (25 Count)

And if you prefer a quick wash then these wipes are great for simply wiping down the toy and your body before and after play. I would still recommend giving them a good rinse afterwards to get rid of any residue though.


Honestly, figuring out your new vibrator can be a lot of fun and is a great time for exploration. With these few tips, vibrators will fast become one of your best friends. And with a little bit of care, you should be able to use the toy for a long time.