Best Long Distance Sex Toys – 2020 Review

Being in a long distance relationship is hard and it can be a pretty lonely time without your lover. But just like technology has made it easier to make things feel less far away, now sex toys have caught on too and there are all sorts of toys being released that can make you feel like you are both in the same room, even from the other side of the world!

Comparison of the Best Long Distance Sex Toys


Our Rating


We-Vibe Jive

We-Vibe Sync


We-Vibe Bloom

We-Vibe Verge

Benefits of App and Remote Controlled Sex Toys

Most (if not all) of the long-distance sex toys on the market have an option to be controlled via an app. This means that you can be in New Zealand while your partner is in Europe and they can control what your vibrator is doing all from an app. Pretty cool huh?!

All you need is some data or an internet connection and you are good to go. Using a video chat at the same time can really make the experience even better too so that you can see and hear each other and watch the responses of the person with the toy.

As with all apps though, sometimes our connections just suck and it can make things pretty frustrating. Lucky most of these toys will have remotes too so you can just ditch the partner and take over yourself.

Best Uses for Long Distance Sex Toys

Still on the fence about the benefits of long distance toys? Here are some of the best uses:

Makes phone sex even better!

Now you can add in the element of vibrator too and have some mutual masturbation over the phone and letting one partner be in control of the others pleasure.

Video call and get an awesome show

Put on a show with video calling and let each other see everything that is going on with the toy and your responses to it. Some of these apps will actually include video chat as an in-app option so you can do it all with one app.

Use it without other communication and experience some serious anticipation

Turn on the toy, turn on the app and just see what happens. Make sure you both know the time frame though or you might run out of power on the toy without a whole lot of action!

What Makes a Good Long Distance Sex Toy?

Let's see what factors contribute toward a great long distance toy:

Good App Functions

Some apps are better than others and offer a lot more app features. Of course, you may not need all those extras so getting something more simple could be best for how you want to play. Also, ensure that the app can be used on the phone you have! Because the won’t be available on every phone.

Type of Toy

There are more and more styles of sex toys that now have this functionality including Kegel trainers, vaginal eggs, clitoral stimulators, butt plugs and cock rings. So pick the one that you like the most and will get the most use out of and go for gold!

Is there a remote control too?

Keep in mind that hopefully you won’t always be apart from one another and some of these toys you will be able to use together too. When that happens it is much easier to use a remote control rather than a touch screen, especially if your fingers are covered in lube.

Review of the Best Long Distance Sex Toys

Let’s take a look at our favorite toys for long-distance lovers and the pros and cons of each because nothing is perfect but some of these come pretty damn close!

1. We-Vibe Jive


  • This toy can be used in so many different ways and controlled from anywhere in the world, so long as that person has been given permission and access of course.
  • We-Vibe is known for their strong rumbly vibrations and this vibe has just that!
  • It is completely waterproof so you can use it in the bath or shower if you want to. Just keep your phone away!


  • Apps can be a bit annoying and if there is an issue with the connection the toy will not respond properly.
  • It is quite a loud toy so make sure you stick to rowdy places if you are using it in public.
  • It is quite a loud toy so make sure you stick to rowdy places if you are using it in public.

The We-Vibe Jive is yet another amazing vibrator from We-Vibe. This is an internal egg vibe that targets the G-spot or the P-spot if you are using it anally and has very strong, deep and rumbly vibrations. There are 10 different patterns to choose from and each one is just as amazing as the last.

You can control the vibration using the handy button on the end of the retrieval cord, using the wireless remote control or using the We-Connect app. This app is perfect for those in long distance relationships as it can be used from anywhere in the world.

With it, you can control the toy using the patterns, use your touch screen to determine the vibration levels or by matching it to your favorites songs and letting it vibrate in time. Pretty cool huh? The egg measures 3.75 inches in circumference and has an insertable length of 3.5 inches.

Bottom Line

The We-Vibe Jive is an amazing multi-use toy that is perfect for those playing alone or those in a long distance relationship.

2. We-Vibe Sync


  • The Sync is perfect for partnered play or solo play with either yourself or a far away lover in charge of the controls.
  • The vibrations are seriously rumbly!
  • This toy is USB rechargeable and a full charge will give you up to 90 minutes of play.


  • Apps can be a bit fiddly and if you have a bad connection you won't be able to get it to work the way you may want it to.
  • Even being posable, some women will find that this toy pops out a lot during partnered sex and they may need to hold it in place.

The We-Vibe Sync is an upgraded version of the We-Vibe 4 Plus, which was for a long time, the best selling couples sex toy in the world. The Sync takes all the great features of the 4 Plus and puts them into an even better toy! The Sync is a wearable vibrator that can be worn during penetrative sex or can be used alone to stimulate the clitoris and the vagina of the wearer.

When used with the partner the toy has two ends. One end sits externally against the clitoris and the other end sits inside the vagina which vibrates internally. This will stimulate the penis too once inserted. The Sync is made from a firm core with a soft silicone outer.

The core is posable and can be bent into place so it stays like that. This means that it can suit a lot of different body types comfortably. What makes this toy so popular is that it also connects to the We-Connect app so can be controlled from anywhere in the world making it ideal for long distance relationships. It has a circumference of 3.5 inches and an insertable length of 3 inches.

Bottom Line

The Sync is an amazing sex toy whether you have a partner or not. But if you do, this will certainly keep the sparks flying even from the other side of the world.

3. Clone-A-Willy


  • Talk about having fun with and without your clothes on.
  • You have a copy of your favorite penis even when the owner isn’t around.
  • Its made from silicone and will actually last you a long time… if you get it right.


  • It is pretty damn hard to make and you only get one shot.
  • Also, the vibrating option takes more care than the dildo by the same brand. That is because, without the right thickness around all sides of the vibe, it can start to tear and is no longer body-safe.

What’s better to ease the loneliness of a long distance relationship than an exact replica of your lover’s penis? Well, there is one only one thing, and that’s an exact replica that also vibrates. So you guessed it. This kit gives you everything you need to actually mold the penis of your partner so that you always have it with you. Plus, it's like a super fun science experiment.

The kit has everything you need to make a soft silicone penis, including the vibrator part and even a thermometer. You get a molding tube, a specially timed algae-based molding powder (science!), a single speed vibrating unit, a two-part platinum cure-silicone mix, a thermometer, a stirring stick and a full list of instructions that you are definitely going to need! You just add batteries. Oh, and the original penis of course.

Bottom Line

If you want to take part in the process of making your very own sex toy, then this is for you! Its fun, its messy and it will feel amazing once all is said and done (hopefully).

4. We-Vibe Bloom


  • A workout and orgasm all in one!
  • The toy is fully submersible so you can use it in the bath, shower or spa.
  • Your partner can control it using the We-Connect app from anywhere in the world and know that they are helping get you better, stronger and longer orgasms.


  • Anything controlled by an app has the potential for annoying connectivity issues.
  • Being an internal toy, it is a bit less visual if you are also using a video chat app with your partner while it is in use.

Yes, its another We-Vibe toy on the list, and again, they are here because of that amazing We-Connect app. Let’s face it, these guys are the best in the biz when it comes to making sex toys for long distance lovers. This one is a bit different though as it is actually a Kegel training toy so you get a Kegel workout and a whole lot of pleasure at the same time, with the same toy. The Bloom is made from super soft silicone and progressive weights to really work your PC muscles.

What is especially cool as that the stronger your muscles become from using this toy, the more intense your orgasms will be in the long run. There are 10 rumbly patterns to choose from, but if you are just training, you can use it without turning those on too. The toy has a circumference of 4.5 inches and an insertable length of 3.5 inches.

Bottom Line

Looking to strengthen your pelvic floor and have an orgasm at the same time? Want your partner to be in charge of the controls? Then look no further! And keep in mind, that there is no partner necessary for this toy either, it is a great workout and pleasure toy just for you too.

5. We-Vibe Verge


  • You can use this toy with a partner during foreplay or sex, or use it by yourself and give them the controls.
  • The vibrations are really powerful and rumbly.
  • The perineum massager can be pointed in the other direction and used to stimulate a partner’s clitoris instead.


  • It is a tricky toy to get on and is not as stretchy as some other cock rings.
  • The battery life is quite short compared to other We-Vibe products.

Ok, ok, I am really pushing the We-Vibes here, but look! This one is worn on a penis instead and its pretty damn cool. The We-Vibe Verge is a vibrating cock ring that also has a perineum massager attached. You get all the benefits of a cock ring like prolonged play, a firmer erection and a more intense orgasm as well as the incredible rumbly vibes of a We-Vibe vibrator, and it can be controlled using the We-Connect app.

There are 10 different vibrations modes which can be controlled using the buttons on the toy or with the app. The toy is made from super high-quality silicone and it is completely submersible so can be used anywhere you like it. The ring has a minimum diameter of 2 inches and is stretchy to accommodate most sizes.

Bottom Line

Cock rings already have so many benefits but now they are even better! If you want long lasting pay, a harder erection, deep vibration and the ability to connect to a long distance lover, then this is for you.


Finding the right long-distance sex toy really comes down to what area you want to stimulate and how many options the app has for control and connection. The We-Vibe range is the most popular because their toys are strong, the app has a lot of features and there are remote controls with the toys too. But what you go for is totally up to you!